I will continue to keep meditating and staying present because the present moment is all there ever is. They are temporary events arising in awareness. So, it really doesn’t exist as a single “thing.” It exists as part of a system – as part of the universe. But it’s work I’m very willing to do! I suppose real power, is when you can engage your thoughts emotions fully, or leave them alone. You are not the signal, but the receiver of the signal. And a lot of regular, everyday people who have meditated and noticed what their consciousness is doing, and seen the truth of life: That is, the self-image that we unconsciously build does not have to control our lives. Thoughts changes frequently. We only limit it and call it a flower because of convenience. Realising this was the biggest relief I ever experienced! They may be a part of who you are. That our underlying nature is that of pure, conscious awareness. Everything in your experience would suggest otherwise. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. The self-created theory argues that you ar… That’s all the ego is. You believe that you are your mind. Because it’s even confusing to me typing it out. I’m really pleased that you got something out of this , Next post: An Insight From Bio-Feedback Brain Training. Say, your GF who you love so much is screaming at you, you notice the anger and sadness in you arising, so you observe it, don’t name them. If they were part of your essential nature, they would always be present. Love is a beautiful emotion to experience but can you truthfully say that it is always present. The second, and equally important, aspect is the attitude with which you observe your inner world—the attitude of kindness, compassion and empathy for the human condition. Yes, the mind can’t get ii. Thank You. MOTIVATION. You are not judged by these thoughts but they are presented to you, through you. You created this mental shell when you were a kid. "Eat and drink!" That speaks of the flower. I feel like a piece of me knew the truth all this time but I can now really see it for what is …. And, you are right. Oops, one last question I had that I forgot to add to my first comment is if we are not our thoughts (slowly grasping that) then how do we move through our day when many things may fall under “what should I do today” which may be based on an emotion? Just as clouds of all shapes and sizes float across the unchanging sky, all kinds of thoughts come and go against the backdrop of your unchanging awareness. Claire Weekes in her book “Self Help For Your Nerves” describes these thoughts as “Tired thoughts in a tired mind” – this is a wonderfully simple description What a relief! You are not your thoughts, ideas, beliefs, concepts and models. We can either build a better one, consciously. Realising you are not your thoughts is a life-changing discovery, a pivotal moment in each person’s spiritual journey. For me, mindfulness has made me a more compassionate and loving person. Let’s take a closer look. A powerful adult. There is one physical world here on earth, but billions of different internal worlds. Or would it begin with the creation of the egg? Is being thankful also emotion? For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. And it’s over simplistic. But the dangers it’s protecting you from are likely long gone. It goes against everything we have been conditioned to believe all our lives. Your email address will not be published. Whether they are positive, negative or somewhere in between. Aware? Stripped of all these concepts, ideas and beliefs, is there still a ‘you’ present? It shifts your perspective from BEING the thoughts to being able to choose how you engage with them. If you struggle in your thought-life, then you probably already know that immoral thinking is leading you straight into sin. You are who you love. I had always assumed that “I” was my thoughts, or my intellect. You are the infinite awareness. Well, you could measure the diameter by it’s visible fire. There is more to the picture. It is arbitrary because we humans just decided to divide it up like that for convenience sake. The birth of the father? You say “it seems very robotic or zombie-like being present without thought”. 5 - excited. It is not a thing, but a doing. The Sedona Method is a powerful technique for letting go of troublesome thoughts, feelings and emotions. The pen represents any thoughts, feelings or emotions that are present right now. You are not ‘you being present’ or ‘not being present’ . When you transcend the experience of duality — of dividing the universe up into separate “things” — you experience the reality of bliss, love, peace — and oneness. Your thoughts appear in your head. now turn your hand to face the floor, unclench your fist, and allow the pen to fall. “You” are presence itself. They are known only to you. Put aside all thoughts of the future. One is constantly changing , the other one is timeless and ever the same. I am glad to be your friend. If you really were your anger, your sadness or the broken person your mind would have you believe you are, it would be your continuous experience. I’ll definitely be sharing this post with my friends and family. Please repeat that to yourself three more times, as it can be an important realization on your path to emotional peace. Tiffany, this is a great question. It is something (that’s not a thing) that cannot be expressed through words. PAGES OF. Most conversations hold a lot of meaning or emotions. This is freedom. The idea that you can watch the mind and therefore can’t be it, is a game changer for every spiritual aspirant. So we divide the world up into separate “things.” Things that do not exist by themselves. A collection of ideas, or thoughts. Please appreciate what good news this is -- you are not limited to your sense perceptions, your thoughts, or your feelings. Almost like eating a tasty pizza and not being able to enjoy its taste fully. What does it feel like? And yes, all you need to do is notice them … notice how they arise from nowhere, linger for a bit and then pass on. As one of my teachers told me, “Leave the mind alone. It’s the same with your emotions. But what should be the next steps in order to act ? If you start thinking something that takes you out of your place of joy (or just generally makes you feel bad), then realise they’re just thoughts, spontaneously arising. But think of it logically, You can only be one of two things. “It’s that idea, or concept of self, that ego that we make up, that gets in the way of experiencing life/reality directly.” — very profound. This is one of the fundamental teachings of the Buddha. The universe is a system. Emotional love comes and goes within a greater you. When I realised thoughts were just thoughts and I can take them or leave them i felt free but it’s also a little overwhelming.. who have I been all this time ? You might want to try this exercise? If you need to, then keep your list of strengths where you can see it so that when you need to use positive self-talk you have some ideas of what to say. Great question! In fact, I am honored. If the dice lands on 1, then you are happy. It can be alluded to or pointed at but not expressed. And that LIFE is another name for you. I had read many transformational books before that, but this one blew my mind. The notion that you are not your thoughts is a radical one. 6 - stressed out. We do what needs to be done without being pulled in a hundred directions at once. Happy thoughts appear, sad thoughts appear but awareness itself doesn’t change. When you know you are not the mind, you no longer have to take it so damn seriously. The passing thoughts, feelings and emotions are not who you are. Required fields are marked *. "The first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. I have two pages you might enjoy. There were no thoughts (mind chatter). Leave the mind in peace to do it’s dance and it will leave you in peace to do yours. How does a tiger hunt without thinking? There is still quite some work to do, to keep practicing observing thoughts and moving away from the old conditioned mind pattern. This is the error. I realize this probably means that we’re not our bodies either. The more you can focus your thoughts on something, the more likely you’ll be able to achieve it. You are not your thoughts, ideas, beliefs, concepts and models. I have read it twice, and I am still learning. Very profound wisdom has been shared here. Experienced through your physical being. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. We must experience the world in such ways. But these are all just abstractions of the truth. You have no idea what the next thought will be. More importantly, you’re not your mistakes. Childhood wonderment and spontaneous manifestation is when we are most alive and not. How could you be something that is in a constant state of flux. You continue your answer: "Because it's completely random, out of my control. So deep in its pure, divine form. If you don’t, you… It’s a buzzing mind I reckon that keeps me alive, re-think, helps me perceive life experiences and dig out simple wisdom from quiet introspection. Quite the opposite—it allows me to feel fully alive and to actually be fully present for others. I think there is a danger of seeing emotion as something alien, and therefore every time strong emotions arise – we think there is something wrong. That moment of taking a moment to pause before indulging in the emotions attached to a event or situation is such a valuable lesson to learn and you are so right to bring it to attention. It struck me for the first time in 1997, after reading “The Power Of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. Put aside all ideas of good or bad, true or false, right or wrong— any self-judgement, anything you feel proud or ashamed of, any achievements or failures. In truth, who you are today is not the same person you were yesterday, or even 5 minutes ago. The first is the non-judgemental acceptance of whatever arises in your experience. hi Denise, You are not your thoughts | You are the awareness that remains when you stop thinking Who you think you are is not who you are. Viktor Frankl said: Between stimulus and response there is a space. I hope this makes sense. It involves body chemistry, hormones, neurons, the gut etc. Which “you” are you referring to? Key Bible Verse: Proverbs 23:7. This is PROOF that the thoughts are not ‘who you are’. If all of those things go away, who are you? Good question Triselle. It would be more accurate to describe it not as a flower, but as a flowering. They appear by themselves, apparently out of nowhere, linger in your awareness for a moment or two and then disappear again— like clouds passing across the sky. So if the thoughts are not who we are, why are they private for each of us? Should I dissociate myself from my feelings and let it pass? Let’s take a closer look. In fact, psychologists say that 95% of your thinking occurs at the level of the subconscious, leaving just 5% that you are actually aware of. You don’t have to engage with them at all if that’s what you choose. All rights reserved. One of the first things you notice is that thoughts are self-arising. Simply put: You are not your thoughts. Jim, this is a marvelous piece of wisdom. Thanks a lot! Leave them alone and they will leave you alone. Expansive? 16.3k Likes, 0 Comments - Maxi Lopez (@officialmaxilopez) on Instagram: “if you are not your thoughts, Then Who are you ?” I have practised other forms of meditation in the past which I would agree are a bit mechanical and lacking in empathy but I wouldn’t say that about mindfulness. Keep that in mind for a second while we talk about the next important point. Boy, was this something I struggled with for a long time. It’s arbitrary that the diameter of the sun is limited by its visible fire. The notion that you are not your thoughts is a radical one. You might have made this same assumption, or you might think of yourself being your ego, or personality, or self-image. You personalise them and suffer as a result. I really liked this article however I feel that there is still some resistance in me, maybe because of my mind. Hi Helena, Yes, it really does change everything when you see you are not your thoughts and that engaging with them is optional. I wrote a thought. If You Are Not Your Thoughts, Then Who Are You Really? You could say they are, I go into this topic in more detail in my book “. I stumbled upon a guided meditation that chanted “I am not the body. I shared this article (to aid someone) and was warned that this was spiritual bypassing. A system. If you focus your mind on the wrong things, then you’ll have a harder time achieving anything in life. I respectfully disagree. Most of which you did not design consciously. It’s that idea, or concept of self, that ego that we make up, that gets in the way of experiencing life/reality directly. Tracing the roots of your thoughts to the deepest layers of your psyche can help you deal with anxieties, phobias and neuroses. Everything in your experience would suggest otherwise. You would be directionless like an empty zombie not knowing what you want or dont want. Realising you can step back and watch your thoughts is a big turning point… a huge thing to see. This is the delusion. Your self-concept is likely limiting you – and you are not aware of it! You could call this a divine little spark. And then “I” came crashing back! Really simply, if I’m not my thoughts and emotions, who or what am I? By signing up for this guide, you will also be added to my mailing list. It is what the whole Universe, including you, is made of. Your hand represents YOU, awareness. How could they not be who you are? Don’t touch it at all and you will remain untouched by it.”. (affiliate link). "Of course not!" I’m trying to really understand, but it’s tough. The notion that you’re not your thoughts could provide you with an excuse for not taking responsibility for the negativity within ie to spiritually bypass. Awesome Jonny, glad you’re getting something from it . But this mental division, creates the illusion that the world contains separate things, when it does not. The Buddha. How to Love Your Little Monster and Virginia Faye my aspiring artist page. The instrument has taken you over.”. Here’s another. You … Grasping this is tough when you have “been your thoughts” for many many decades. When you realize that you are not your thoughts or emotions you get to witness everything that is going on from a detached perspective instead of identifying with them. View my privacy policy. The Bible offers good news! Haven’t rewritten it yet. Your thoughts appear in your head. And yet, the awareness that is aware of thoughts (feelings and emotions too) hasn’t changed one bit. We need to realize that “The Essence of Life is … Life Itself” and Life Is “Now” The Moment. Your thoughts and feelings do not make you weird or broken. Also as I am sure you know, we are bio-chemical beings. You don’t even need to be indifferent to them for that, in itself, would be an action you are taking. If it lands on 2, then you are angry. Now, what did that flower need to grow? 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