A combination of the things I’ve mentioned above plus this extra almost divine little spark? Etc. We usually say that it begins when they are born, but the fetus lives before that so we could say life begins at a certain number of weeks of pregnancy. Many thanks! According to the self-created theory, your thoughts are a direct extension of your identity—your character, personality, and true desires. Instead of Fighting Your Thoughts, Learn to Observe Them. You might want to try this exercise? This allows one to become removed from the habitual pattern we fall into – believing that we are what we think. Tiffany, this is a great question. The moment we try to define it, it is not IT any more. "Of course not!" Or we could argue that it begins at conception. Rather than restructuring or challenging thoughts, as with CBT, cognitive defusion practices aim to help patients distance themselves from their thoughts when the thoughts are not … When you learn to meditate, the first thing you learn is to take a step back and watch the mind objectively—with an attitude of curiosity. You are who you love. Let’s take a closer look. Hi Richard, I found this article very helpful. Our spoken human languages necessitates the division into objects. You would be directionless like an empty zombie not knowing what you want or dont want. Jesus. The “self-created” theory argues that you arethe voice behind your thoughts. He has been, without doubt, one the most important and inspirational teachers on my own  journey. For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Trapped in my thoughts. It’s freeing. It is not a thing, but a doing. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. Thoughts changes frequently. Well, you could measure the diameter by it’s visible fire. That would seem like we are dissociating from negative ones or ones we may not want to act on. Tat Twam Asi – I Am That. BE LOVE.” Love is the ground of who you are beyond thoughts, feelings and emotions. View my privacy policy. Is love just a passing emotion not continuous and is to be observed but not really a part of who we are? Except those who aren’t. Please repeat that to yourself three more times, as it can be an important realization on your path to emotional peace. Most conversations hold a lot of meaning or emotions. Present? What a relief! This article really helped me to see the distinction between consciousness and thought/emotion, and I will be exploring more of your work and books. But after you’ve been on the planet for a few years, you begin to see that this doesn’t reflect reality. Claire Weekes in her book “Self Help For Your Nerves” describes these thoughts as “Tired thoughts in a tired mind” – this is a wonderfully simple description It really is a life changing realisation! Without commentary, thoughts, feelings and emotions are neutral events. I am going to read it many times over my friend. It must be said you are the witnesser of your thoughts. Don’t touch it at all and you will remain untouched by it.”. Should I dissociate myself from my feelings and let it pass? They speak in your voice. Is being thankful also emotion? But when I speak out words of hatred toward someone else, I am pointing them directly to myself. I have read it twice, and I am still learning. Also as I am sure you know, we are bio-chemical beings. "Eat and drink!" The sperm? Put aside all thoughts of the future. 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